You’re Not Broken. Your Body Is Talking.
Written by Taylor Lopez Boodooram, SSW
Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to ignore the very things that make us human. Like the tightness in our chest, the lump in our throat, the way we clench our jaw without realizing it. Maybe you learned to “stay strong” no matter how much you were hurting. Or maybe you were praised for being the one who always kept it together, even when you were barely hanging on.
At Manaaki Mental Health, we want you to know:
There’s nothing wrong with you. Your body has just been speaking a language you were never taught to understand.
Somatic therapy offers a way to translate those messages. It’s not about fixing you. It’s about helping you feel safe, grounded, and at home in yourself.
Somatic therapy is a body-centered therapeutic approach that focuses on the connection between your emotions, trauma, and physical sensations. The word “soma” means body, and this practice helps you notice and release what your body has been holding onto.
Rather than only talking about what happened to you, we tune into how your body remembers it. That memory might show up as tight shoulders, clenched fists, or a heaviness in your stomach. With the right tools and support, you can begin to shift those patterns, restore your sense of safety, and regulate your nervous system.
If you grew up in a culture where rest was rare, where vulnerability was unsafe, or where expressing emotion was seen as weakness, somatic therapy can feel like a breath of fresh air.
At Manaaki, we work with women of color who carry layers of stress and trauma that go beyond the personal. Many of us have never been given permission to pause, to ask ourselves what we need, or to feel without fear of judgment.
Somatic work helps us rewrite those messages. It allows you to reclaim your body as a place of safety and healing instead of simply surviving each day.
If you’ve felt “off” or overwhelmed but couldn’t quite put it into words, your body might be holding unprocessed stress. Here are a few signs we often see:
These symptoms are your body’s way of communicating that it needs support, not something to be ignored or brushed off.
You don’t have to be in a therapy session to begin this healing work. Here are five techniques you can start using today. They’re gentle, accessible, and help strengthen the connection between your body and your emotions.
Look around your space and name five things you see. Notice the colors, textures, and light. Choose one object that feels calming or familiar and focus on it for a few moments. This helps your nervous system realize it is safe in the present moment.
Breathe in slowly for four counts, then exhale gently for eight. Repeat this a few times. Longer exhales help activate the calming part of your nervous system and reduce internal tension.
Stand up and gently shake your arms, legs, shoulders, or hips for 30 seconds. It might feel silly at first, but it can help release built-up adrenaline and bring ease back into your system.
Place one hand on your chest and the other on your belly. Take a few slow, intentional breaths. Notice the rise and fall beneath your palms. This simple act can provide a sense of warmth, connection, and reassurance.
Instead of writing about what you’re thinking, begin by noticing what you’re feeling in your body. You can ask yourself, “Where do I feel tension today?” or “What’s happening physically when I feel anxious or calm?” This kind of journaling builds awareness without judgment.
For many women of color, healing is not just about managing stress. It’s about breaking intergenerational patterns and reclaiming what we’ve had to suppress in order to survive, like our emotions, our softness, our grief, our joy, and our right to take up space.
At Manaaki, we know that therapy must honor the whole of your lived experience. That includes your identity, your ancestry, your boundaries, and your brilliance. Somatic therapy allows you to hold space for all of it, gently, intentionally, and with care.
You won’t be rushed into anything or asked to go deeper than you’re ready for. Our sessions are consent-based, collaborative, and built on a foundation of emotional and physical safety.
Here’s what a typical somatic session might involve:
You are the expert of your experience. We are here to walk beside you, not lead for you.
Your healing doesn’t have to start with fixing or performing. It can start with a single breath. A softening. A pause.
If something in this post resonates with you, that’s your body speaking. And you’re allowed to listen.
At Manaaki Mental Health, we offer in-person sessions in Taylorsville, Utah, designed with women of color in mind. We believe therapy should feel like an exhale. A place where your full self is welcome and your body can begin to rest.
Manaaki Mental Health – Taylorsville, UT | In-Person & Telehealth Appointments Available
6/11/2025
This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing this!